How to step into your sensual playfulness & divine feminine power

Each one of us, male and female, carries within our psyche both Masculinity and Femininity. Now the divine feminine energy raising up planetarily, there is no better time to tap into it and enjoy more success with grace.

“The doors to the world of the wild Self are few but precious. If you have a deep scar, that is a door, if you have an old, old story, that is a door. If you have the sky and the water so much you almost cannot bear it, that is a door. If you yearn for a deeper life, a full life, a sane life, that is a door.”

Clarissa Pinkola Estés

The real power of your divine femininity is beyond measure. Gone are the days you were a Cinderella waiting to be rescued, it’s not even about being female.

I appreciate that “embracing your feminine power” can be quite vague, so I’ve broken it down into 7 specific steps that you can take.

Step 1: Self-compassion

We grew up in the old energy, where social conditions are harsh. Competitive, insecure, driven by ego – each of us has been there before, because of the stubborn programming that we are not lovable.

We were brought up to ask for external approval consciously and unconsciously.

This tendency only reflects your soul’s and childhood wounding, and it denies your gorgeous divine Self.

Solution? Shower endless compassion towards yourself.

Any dramas, conflicts, and misunderstanding in your life is merely a reflection that you can love yourself more.

Forgive all the “mistakes” you made in the past – without them you won’t be where you are now.

Accept that wherever you are now, you are exactly where you need to be…

When you activate this awareness, you tap into the divine feminine power immediately.

It grounds you, holds you, nurtures you. And your perspective of self-worth will start to shift.

Step 2: Honour your truth

Once you pour unconditional love and compassion towards yourself, you’ll able to bypass the self-sabotage & see a more accurate picture in your life, work and relationship.

Now you have the space to hold your truth and listen to your inner voice.

What is calling you at the moment?

• learn how to paint?
• find a feasible way to quit your corporate job and start your dream business?
• combine all your passion into one brand: ie, YOU?
• release money blocks & have a full practice?
• write a book or blog about your growth lessons to inspire and heal others?

Whatever that is, honour it. Give it a life and take baby steps, until this becomes a solid part of your daily reality…

No more shoulda

You’ve been doing the “shoulds” more than enough for way too long…

Let go of those who are not aligned with your truth (events and people). Thank them for playing a role in your life, but you have to move on for your own adventure now.

Step 3: Develop your intuition & inner guidance

Once you recognise and listen to your inner-voice, your intuition will be developed further.

It shows up as a quiet knowing, a sense of resonance, a subtle nudge that guides your choices.

You can even keep a journal of these moments – writing them down helps you trust that you are already being guided.

As you build this relationship with your inner wisdom, you’ll notice more synchronicities and find it easier to make aligned decisions with clarity and ease.

You can connect with your intuition, if you want to re-discover and re-awaken your femininity, including:

• Learning to build healthy, sovereign boundaries – inspired by others, but ultimately led by your own truth.
• Shifting from over-efforting and over-planning to becoming magnetic to the right opportunities, people, and work.
• Journaling or voice-noting your intuitive nudges daily, so you can see patterns and build trust in your inner guidance.
• Creating quiet moments (in nature, in stillness, through breathwork) so your inner voice has room to be heard.

Step 4: Unleash your sensual innocence

Your divine feminine self is extremely playful.

Your feminine self wants to be intrigued and aroused by beauty with all your senses , have an appetite for creativity and pleasure, and keep your ecstatic fire on.

Infuse your playful and feminine spirit into all aspects of your work and life.

Ask yourself the questions:

– Where in your life/work are you being too serious? Sure, you take the responsibility of your career and wellbeing, but nothing should be too serious to override your playfulness.

– How can you use all senses during your down time?

Sensuality is not just a physical act, but more of a state of mind and a way of living.

A really simple example, when you hug your partner, have a full-body hug, touch, smell, listen to his heart-beat and sound of the breaths, feel and “taste” the vibration and connection in the air.

Reconnect with the living Earth

Part of reawakening your feminine is returning to the rhythms of nature. Hug a tree, lie on the grass, walk barefoot, watch the moon. These are not small gestures – they are ways to remember that you belong here, that your body is part of earth’s body, that you are held.

Step 5: Own your zone of genius

Your zone of genius is something that “if only you have enough money, if only nobody judges you, if only you feel more confident”, you’ll definitely do.

The Big Leap is one of my favourite books. It discussed the differences between zone of excellence and zone of genius at length.

So many of us are seduced and trapped by our zone of excellence (ie, you developed some skill sets, which allow you to do a good enough job), not fully committed to our zone of genius.

I could do a very good job in Finance – but there was no way that I found such intimacy, such connection, such satisfaction, which I experience in my current work.

When I used to work in Finance, I pray everyday that: “No challenge, please let everything be the same as last month”.

Now, when prospects approach me saying that they’ve tried so many courses or coaches but their transformation is not yet happening. As much compassion as I feel for them, a part of me is awakened and my inner voice says: “Hell Yeah. Let’s do it!”. As long as they are willing to be guided, I have a great degree of assurance, and I could tell them with excitement, “Relax into the process, it is your time now and your transformation is just around the corner”…

You have your zone of genius too, it is a combination of gifts that you have brought forward from countless past lives, gifts that have been showered upon you, skills that you keep practising and honing without realising it.

It is your purpose and your responsibility to own it.

Commit to your zone of genius before you commit to anyone or anything else.

Recommit to your zone of genius every day.

In this zone, there is no competition, but pure divine expressions.

When you carry yourself this way, you hold a really high frequency. And that frequency ignites and amplifies light in those who are around you.

At the same time, consciously surround yourself with people who are also committed to living in their zone of genius. Because their energy nurtures and amplifies yours too.

Step 6: Deepen your connection with your life

By now, you are able to see the truth in your life, honour your truth, develop your intuition, unleash your playful self, own your zone of genius, and shower compassion towards everyone.

You’ll feel that we are all inter-connected at a deep level. (you’ll indeed feel this, not just hear it intellectually)

You genuinely adore every spirit that you encounter (though you might not like someone’s personality, you’ll know that the personality is just a tiny picture in the grand scheme).

Even when you face pain or challenges, you can see them as invitations to grow — not just for yourself, but for the larger web of life.

You actively seek to see, appreciate and engage the beauty and essence within everyone.

No one is special, yet everyone is special…

It’s not always easy to walk this way. I know that I certainly struggle when I get “too busy”. To get around it, I have one non-action day per week, as a non-negotiable, to play with this sense, notice beauty, slow down, or simply observe life, or give people, animals and plants genuine compliments freely.

This practice re-centres you and reminds you that you are already part of something larger, supported, and in flow.

As soon as I invite this non-negotiable day back, I feel centred, empowered and loved.

Step 7: Dare to claim your own authority

Most importantly, your divine feminine expression is unique.

Everything shared here is simply an invitation, not a prescription.
Take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and allow your own truth to lead you.

The real power of the feminine is not in conforming to a formula – it is in remembering who you are and daring to live from that place.

 

All my love,

If what you read stirred something in you – a yes, a curiosity, a longing – I invite you to join me in The Divine Feminine Course. 💗

Step into and radiant your divine feminine. Not as an idea, but as a lived experience.

This is where your truth, your creativity, and your ease can take root and flourish.

If you find this post helpful, you can read the sister article here: How To Connect with and Embody Your Divine Feminine Energy.

(photo credit: Kristian Schuller)