Here is a new thread to gather the Q&As from our community.
“Should I quite coaching?”
The first one is a coaching specific question, but the underlying reason and insights apply to any situation where you make a significant decision.
“…I’ve been coaching pro-bono clients for 6 months. Lately I set a goal to take on paying clients. I have one pro-bono client at the moment. I decided that she would be my last pro-bono client.
Unfortunately, the coaching with her is not smooth. She doesn’t take suggested actions. And every time during our sessions, I feel her mind is not even there. I’m frustrated that we are not making any progress. I’ve been emailing her different resources to help her, but she doesn’t seem to be interested either.
This has impacted on my confidence, despite I received a lot positive feedback from my previous clients. I don’t know if I’m ready to charge for my service anymore. There were a couple of times I even thought about quit coaching all together. Any advice will be appreciated…”
Thanks for having courage to reach out. You are not alone – we are all in this together.
When we make exciting decisions, in your case, get paid by doing what you love, we have fears both consciously and unconsciously.
Because we are held back by our fears (especially at the subconscious level), we are sending the Universe very mixed signals.
Then the Universe has no idea what to do…to make it happen for you or not?
Therefore, you attract events and people like your current client.
It’s really just a test.
Or rather, a follow-up question from the Universe: “I’m not sure exactly what you want, please can you clarity?”
So here is the question to ask yourself:
At the cellular level, how committed are you to take your coaching practice to the next level?
If you want to get paid by coaching, which I believe you deserve given all the positive feedback you received in past, you must have the confidence to decide who you want to take on as clients.
As a coach, you can try your best to create a safe space for your clients, guide them, go out your ways to provide down-to-earth strategies, or the most cutting-edge woo-woo tools, but you can’t grow their souls for them.
If you ever try to walk their path for them, despite your best intentions, it’s not good for either of you.
I recommend you to have a heart-to-heart discussion with her, before you continue the coaching.
1. If she feels the coaching is working at all
2. How willing she is to make positive changes
And make this clear: if she wants to continue the coaching, she needs to “be there” during your sessions.
Make sure you don’t judge her answers whatever they are.
Maybe she is not ready to be coached just yet.
It’s OK to let a client go when the timing is not quite right – it doesn’t mean that you are not good enough to get paid, but rather, you only take on clients who are ready.
You never know, chances are she might come back when she is more ready.
Please don’t be hard on yourself, take this as a sign for you to become a more skilled business owner.
Re-focus on your intentions, dive into your underlying fear (it always points us where we should grow the most), and have confidence in yourself.
Believe it or not, once your decision is clear, you will be guided to acquire relevant skills and resources to fulfill this decision.
Do you have any tips/insights that you want to share with us?