When I became a pro
It’s not the day I got my first client, nor the day I opened my business account.
It is the day I got attacked and misunderstood by someone that I knew, who kept taking the piss out of what I said, and thought the work I do is useless.
Did I feel dishearten? Hurtful? Belittled? Of course.
I felt really flat. I didn’t want to get up. I didn’t have the strength to come back to my PC and write the weekly post.
But it was a Wednesday, and I promised that there is an inspiring blog post coming straight to your inbox every Thursday.
I had to laugh at the situation a little. I help people deal with negative reviews and unsolicited “advice”, (quite often ill-intended judgement) but what I am going to do now?! Pretending that I never said that my blog is updated every Thursday? Or picking up some random personal development stuff from the internet, re-organising them and claiming it to be the weekly post?
No.
I intended to pour my heart when this site was set up, and I shall keep pouring my heart here. Just that I didn’t want to pour out a broken and wounded heart passing around the pains, given the nature of this website!
Walking your own talk is always tough. I needed to find a solution.
I had to coach myself first.
So I tried a few techniques:
“Coming back to the present” (see the video below);
Morning pages, meditation, dancing – I needed to get all the anger and resentments out on my pages, and on the floor;
Listening to my all-time favourite Sonia Choquette;
Going through all the comments I received that how I helped people to take actions and make positive changes in life;
Reading this sentence my friend Leonie Dawson wrote over and over again:
Unless the person who criticises you is genuinely happier than you, don’t bother listening.
Then I turned my PC on, sat down, and did my usual thing: asking myself what tips I must share tomorrow and giving my best.
By the time the article came to the end, I could eventually release my judgement of that person. How he treated me said a lot about him, not me. And I genuinely felt a bit sorry for him and wondered what past wounds caused all kind of dramas to him.
In the end I smiled.
Because I love writing, I love improvising, I love communicating with visitors like you who care to pause your busy day and pop by every week.
And no one else, nor any particular mood has the power to stop me from doing what I do. I gave away my own power briefly, but I re-claimed it soon enough.
That’s the day when I became a pro.
Every irritation is an invitation to growth – growing to be a pro.
When was the day you became a pro? How did you deal with the judgement or criticism?
I’d love if you want to share with us here.
Ps. If you could overcome judgement once, you can do it over and over again! I still get misunderstanding here and there but they are nothing to me anymore.
Pps. Here is a video on how to be present, check it out if you haven’t watched it yet.
Don’t chase the horizone, happiness is a decision, it takes daily practice!
And Happy July-4th to all the US readers!
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With Love, Yiye
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Great wisdom post! I’ve been on a similar journey. It does get easier and it’s true what you said… When you’ve done it once, you can do it again! I love the Leonie Dawson quote: “Unless the person who criticises you is genuinely happier than you, don’t bother listening.” And I love Sonia too 🙂 Thank you for sharing, Yiye. I’ll be back!
Hey Lisa, thanks so much for dropping by and connecting!
Leonie and Sonia are wonderful and so great to have a community to connect with each other!
I look forward to getting to you more!
love
Yiye
Ahhh thank you. That really inspires me. And I know I will re-read it later again and refer to it in my mind. Because if this had happened to me – yes, I would have found a way through – and maybe within a day. But I know I would not have met my promise to post on thursdays. It would have been delayed – which would have frustrated me so that I would had difficulties to do a good post and so the negative outcome of the situation would have been much bigger. Thanks a lot for sharing. This really really inspires me!
Hey Nora, thanks so much for dropping by and connecting! Just checked your website – wow – love your vision! and look forward to hearing more from you!
As for posts, I thought about having a surplus stock for emergency. but so far I found the improvisation works the best for me, energetically 🙂
sending love
Yiye
“Unless the person who criticises you is genuinely happier than you, don’t bother listening. -Leonie Dawson” Thank you so much for this. Your entire post really struck home for me.
I think I first realized I was “pro” when I came to the conclusion that I could only control what was in my hula hoop. That I was only in charge of my own stuff and I had to put “seek joy, y’all” on my list as a to-do every day no matter who said what.
This post rang on my authenticity scale. Thank you so much for sharing it. I will be sharing this with friends when I get to a computer that allows that. 😀
Hey Arwen, so great to have you here! And thanks so much for sharing your insight of being a Pro.
Just joined your club too and can’t wait to read your book!!
Love
OMG – Thanks sooooo much for this today – love – love – love this post <3
Hey Maj, great to meet you! And I love the way you help people on sexuality & sensuality.
guys – click Maj’s name above and it will direct you to her fab website!!
What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger!
Love this post! : )
Thanks Siu-Wai 🙂
Bravo! I like that post, feeling the same. That’s the way to walk.
Hi Ruth, thanks for dropping by and connecting!