住在一个正宗生活在一个疯狂的世界

“Highly sensitive people are too often perceived as weaklings or damaged goods. To feel intensely is not a symptom of weakness, it is the trademark of the truly alive and compassionate. It is not the empath who is broken, it is society that has become dysfunctional and emotionally disabled. There is no shame in expressing your authentic feelings. Those who are at times described as being a ‘hot mess’ or having ‘too many issues’ are the very fabric of what keeps the dream alive for a more caring, humane world. Never be ashamed to let your tears shine a light in this world.”
― Anthon St. Maarten

敢于流

生活的真实生活是一个非常有意义的生活, inspired and guided by your higher self.

It has nothing to do with how you are perceived or projected, or how perfect (imperfect) 你是.

它是关于生活的真相, nothing but your personal, whole truth. As you are committed to your original self as doctors are to diagnosis, 承诺您的真实性是你的疗伤药.

Your authenticity is personal, 私人，但完全的人类，它是如此普遍.

You cannot research into authenticity, 认为或谈论自己陷入真伪.

这是一些需要被深深感受到.

它是一种内在的，明知没有外部情况可以从你带走.

就像海洋并不需要证明其辉煌, 山不必炫耀其实力, 您的真实性是根植于你的DNA.

当你现在倾心于你的原始情绪时, 但是你觉得, 让它流.

“什么流远远,” Lao Zi.

这是我们的大脑难以理解的概念.

我有一个客户, 一个强大的和圈养的作家, 用积极的心态. 头脑告诉她，她应该分析什么样的话题，她应该写, 当发布该件, 以及如何与在博客圈某某有影响力的连接.

She used that approach a few times with “moderate successes”, 据她介绍.

“It all made sense. My plan should work. And the results should be way better!”

“It made sense to your brain, but how about the rest of your body? How does it make your heart feel?” I asked her.

After a long pause, “Miserable! 要完全诚实, my heart feels restricted…”

Whatever we create, if the heart is left out of the process, it won’t be full, delicious or long-lasting. “Ask your heart how she wants to get involved.” I prompted.

“hmmmm, I guess much more spontaneous, 直观的, more open and intimate.” Her voice lifted up but then went flat again, “but this feels too risky, too vulnerable. I don’t know if this way works. After all, my hard work before did yield some results, which I don’t want to abandon…”

她的困境是一个我们许多人谁想要领导一个真实生活 – personally, creatively and professionally – face.

就像站在一个深渊的边缘, diving into the unknown, you could fly high and enjoy the rise, or you could end up falling into the dark should your wings be not nearly as strong as you thought.

The anxiety, fear and confusion is real.

But so is the quiet power of your heart. The calling will never go away. 在一天结束时, you are here to do what you were born to do.

My client took a leap of the faith and wrote what truly mattered to her although she wasn’t sure if it was marketable or sensible.

It was hard to click the “发布” 钮, but she had already invested her soul into the piece, it was too late to bail out the last minute.

She asked for prayers and uplifting thoughts, and I joyfully sent mine with great admiration of her courage.

It turned out that her new writing not just mattered to her, but her audience too. In her own voice, 她写的真理，她的同龄人太害怕谈论或太忙不断市场上的其他东西. It was honest, it was refreshing, it was…pretty dang bold…

“People are sharing my work organically and voluntarily. And I got invited to be part of a Summit! Can you believe it?!” 她怀着兴奋的心情三周后给我写信.

当然，我相信它, 虽然它可能不一定是在这个特定的形式 (这部分始终是神圣的工作, 不是她也不是我的), 但结果只是匹配她的心脏怎么想感受: 自发, 直观的, 更开放，更贴心. 💗

她什么也没做聪明, 但她鼓励和振奋全场. 她听上去很像.

她的心脏毡消息给她喂社区. 然后她的社区许多当之无愧的机会给她喂.

“什么流远远, 什么远远的回报。” 以前，我们的祖先的智慧千百年过去了.

这就是真实的力量 – you have that too.

Dance Into Your Authenticity

我有一个秘密: 我曾经是这样一个挑剔的舞伴.

I constantly complained: he leads too softly, he pushes me too hard, he is not listening to my signals, 他缺乏音乐性, he can’t even do the steps, he can’t improvise in the moment…blablabla, without taking a proper look at my attitude.

No wonder why I had disappeared from the social dancing scene for a while. Basically, I was my own worst nightmare.

Until sometime last year, growing as a healer, I gained a new perspective in partner dancing.

肯定, it is one of the most challenging “dialogues” with another human being. And over the years, it has definitely triggered stuff in me.

Partner dance can be easily misunderstood:

It is not about filling a void in you that could not be fulfilled elsewhere, it is not about getting techniques spot on, it is not about lashing out stress from a busy day, and it is definitely not about if you are dancing with a beginner or a pro…

But it is a conscious choice on mindfulness, on intention, on humanity.

Human journey can be fragile, because of the sorrow and pain, because of injustice and prejudice, we dance.

We dance on our own, for liberation, for joy and celebration, for witness and expression.

We dance in pairs, holding and being held by one another.

Can we see the in person in front of us? Really see him/her and interact with their pure essence? Can we put our own insecurity aside for a moment and offer our light? Can we forget about “knowledge” for a second and simply share a breath with them?

That’s when we connect at a much deeper level. That’s where authenticity comes in. Like cracking an overdue code, I began to enjoy a dance with everyone – my humbling journey led me to true freedom.

Living with authenticity is like a dance.

A dance with self-love.

When your most authentic self emerges from confusion, heartbreak, darkness, or trauma, it seeks its root and guidance. And self-love is much required for the root and guidance.

我朋友的男朋友是一个业余摄影师,en. She hasn’t felt about anyone the way she feels about him for a long time.

She enjoys him so much, and he is very fond of her too.

She supports him on his artistic devotion. She attends classes, checking the latest gadgets on amazon, running around – at times during unsocial hours – just to get one shot right out of hundreds.

She wanted the relationship to move faster, and she believed that if she showed him how much she is passionate about photography, he would see what a Soulmate she is.

So she went to even more classes, researched for more equipment, stayed up all night to catch the sunrise at the perfect moment. Her feeds were filled with more and more beautiful scenery pictures. Except…her relationship didn’t move faster and she was not nearly as happy she thought she would be.

She asked me what I would do in her situation.

“It is so sweet that you are doing all the wonderful things for your relationship, your boyfriend is really lucky to have you! But put that aside for a second, what do you really want to do? How is your pursuit in acting going lately?” Knowing her reasonably well, I was curious about her childhood passion.

这里是东西, we all know how “真伪” is spelt, we can say it easily, but it is not just a buzz word, but a way of living.

It is a bold acknowledgement of your bright light emerging out of this rather complex world.

It is not always straightforward to embody, especially when we are around people who we care about so much, it is easy to take their dream as ours.

Check in with yourself at least three times each day: “What do I really want?”

:: you can start with small things such as if you want soup or toast for breakfast, this will train you to be less and less likely to make decisions on autopilot.

:: if there is conflict and you are torn by choices, I highly encourage you to ask yourself this question: “If I were loving myself fiercely, what would I do?”

:: if you are frustrated because you don’t even know what you want, don’t despair, take your attention to the present moment, breathe deeply. You are exactly where you need to be, trust that the right insight will reveal itself soon…

You go…

Your Best Self Is Always Calling

与一般看法相反, being your best self does not mean that you must be perfect, 或者更糟, transcend your ego completely. Let’s save that for fantasy!

代替, what we are aiming for here is accuracy and self-compassion – be preciously who you are at the bone.

:: What genuinely lights you up?
:: How comfortable are you sitting with your raw emotion without judging it?
:: In what ways can you accept yourself better? All of you, both light and shadow
:: It’s human and healthy to have a ego while walking on planet Earth, and what can you do today to take care of your basic needs so that your ego is relatively balanced? That you are part of the solution not the problem?

It is within reach, and you can do it.

If you want a quick reminder about your best self, I made this video (with helpful resources) 为了你.

The Calling, “你准备好你的入学?”

鲜活的生命，当你的意思带领, 告别一个死胡同关系, 从受虐待的家庭走开, 说是与充分的信心创造性的风险…

旅途本身从来都不是一个直线, but you know it well when your best self is calling you to your most authentic path.

当我们的古部分来自我们的细胞出现, when our inner-voice whisper that the yearning could become reality, 几乎可以我们曾经抵制.

你最好的自我始终在呼唤: 喊你站起来和成长, 蜷缩医治, 搜索和教, 引导和激励.

It reminds you of what you have forgotten and who you really are.

生活用您的真实性窗台, 不再受任何惊吓 “失败” 或 “成功”, 你回到真实的自我的纯真.

这就是力量, 效力, peace and passion all come in and working together together.

“The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.” – Carl Jung.

休息在你的生活的走廊, 你的灵魂呼唤, “你准备好你的入学?”

你准备好你的入学?

如果你已经厌倦了旧的方式 “吸吮起来”, “麻木出来”, 或 “忙乱你的一切关闭”, but looking for new ways to forge ahead: 更有创意, more hand-made, 更让人满意 (内而外), more natural and more…你, 我在这里为您提供帮助. 我可开了一些新景点的直觉精神会议.

用我所有的爱,

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